Lusting after Love

Like I said I was travelling, so here is this weeks post!

As summer starts to wind down, and everyone starts to begin to get started on their final chapter of the year I find myself looking for things I don't need right now. This goes not only for new clothes, and books I doubt I'll have time to finish, but on relationships and love.

I doubt I'm the only one, scratch that I know I'm not. You know something else that tends to happen as summer draws to a close? Engagements, the last batch of summer weddings, and the ending of summer flings. I know some people who are refusing to get on their Facebook with all of the "I said Yes" and newlywed pictures. Others it leaves them longingly looking at the pictures and wondering why their prince/princess has dashed in to rescue them from the dreary monotony of everyday life. Others cut contact with the person that had filled a part of their life for the summer. 

It's okay and it's natural. Summer relationships are supposed to happen, they teach you how quickly everything flies by. And these couples who have finally decided to cement their relationship, is another part of growing into being a twenty-something.

What I've learned is that if you do or don't want it, when you focus on yourself and least expect opportunity to knock on your door, it does. 

I've had too many friends who lust after love, they fill their lives with it, they let themselves be fooled that every Tom, Dick, and Harry is going to be their "one-true-love". Then they become even more let down that it turned out badly. They want love, but they aren't looking for quality love, their looking for immediate love, something Tinder and the other dating apps has fooled our generation into thinking right now is okay until the right person comes along. And it's not.

I'm all for Lusting after love. If the love you're looking for is for yourself. 

I know that sounds weird, but think about it. When was the last time you took a minute for yourself? You didn't care what you're friends were doing, you didn't think about work or homework, and you weren't prepping for time to hang out with that person? I know that I tend to overlook what I need for others. If that means going out for happy hour or watching a TV show I despise. 

Some days you need to love yourself first. It's only afterwards that people can love you. With self love, comes higher standards, and better relationships. Better relationships with friends, significant others, and family members. 

I know that when I hit my, I-don't-care-about-dating, I-just-want-to-go-after-my-dreams-and-take-care-of-me stage is normally when a date comes knocking at my door. People want to be around happy people, they want that person who lights up a room, they want to see someone with passion in their eyes, and one who gives not a care what anyone else thinks of them. The best part about being that person? You get to pick who you want around you. If you've found that you aren't ready for a relationship? Then you can say no. If you find that you don't want to be around the friends who were making you feel darker on the inside? Find a new group of people like yourself. 

So go out there! Find what makes you happy lust after love, just as long as it's the love you give yourself, because at the end of the day that's the only person who matters, you. 

Bookaholic's Backroom: A Light in the Ruins

Okay guys, I'm going to try out something new. Because when I started this blog I had no idea where it was going. I thought I did but in all reality I had no idea where I was going. 

Obviously it's taken a little turn in the last few months, less UW and more introspective. I plan on keeping it like this, even when I go back to Wyoming. I'll be there for a year, and then because I'm growing up and making changes with my life, I'm going to move away. 

Wyoming has been my light, and the large majority of my life. My family, friends, and some of my favorite places in the world are in that state. And if you aren't from Wyoming you should go visit. I am blessed to live in a country that is so incredibly diverse, and it is only a fraction of the world. 

Getting back to the something new. I've come to realize that everyone advocates for a slant on your blog. Well mine is me. And I'm completely unapologetic about it. I'm not just into politics, or fashion, or comics, or books, or travel. I love all of those, and some other crazy things. 

So for now I'm going to try and do it one Friday a month (hopefully the last one!), but I'll bring you something I love, call it Kaite's knick-knacks. This is coming out now because I was busy with events and travelling this weekend. 

So here is my grand reveal of Bookaholic's Backroom, where I'll give recommendation's and review of books I've been reading recently. Over the last month or so I've been reading A Light in the Ruins by Chris Bohjalian

I truly enjoyed this book, a bit outside of my normal tastes and tendencies, the cover drew me in (I try not to let that happen too often) and I'm glad that I decided it needed to come home.

Set during at after WWII in Italy, it follows a family through the struggles of the war and the killer that haunts them ten years later. It made learning about the family as important as possible to the reader, wanting you to uncover their darkest secrets, while leaving you rooting for a happy ending.

I guessed the killer about halfway through, but I blame that on my mother and the copious amounts of CSI and NCIS that I watched growing up. I think my favorite part was even though you time hop, and even hear the killer's thoughts that are ongoing, you still don't find out why, and what the darkest secret they had been hiding until the end.

I certainly couldn't put it down for long, and I would recommend this good read. It's fairly quick but that made it even better for me.

Overall I'll give it a B+ because while the family is the center of the story, the main character, the detective, isn't as real to me as the rest of the characters even though I really liked her. Also because I guessed the killer.

Let me know how you like it!